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By Gerald M. Stein, Ph.D. 
Going to therapy for the first time takes some courage. You are about to talk about some very personal things to someone who is a complete stranger. What can you expect?
1. First of all, expect to be at least a little bit nervous at the beginning. But even before you get inside the therapist’s office, you will have to fill out some paper work. You will also receive a written description of the therapist’s practice, including such details as whether the therapist accepts your medical insurance and how he handles that. Additionally, he will give you information about how your medical records are safe guarded and the extent to which those records are confidential.
2. The therapist should greet you, bring you into his consulting room, and sit face to face with you. Therapists generally want to convey "openness.” It is therefore rare for a therapist to sit behind a desk, with you on the other side.
3. After a few "ice breaking” words, the counselor will ask you why you have sought treatment. If you already told him some of this on the telephone, he will want you to fill in the details.
4. Don’t feel that there is a particular "correct” order in which to tell your story. Simply tell it. Initial sessions should generally allow enough time for you not to be rushed. The therapist has probably scheduled at least 75 to 90 minutes to spend with you.
5. If it makes you feel better, it is entirely appropriate to bring an outline of the topics about which you wish to talk, and to consult this outline or read directly from it whenever you need to.
6. The counselor is likely to have some questions for you. He should want to know about your background, not only about the concerns that exist in your life at the moment. Unless he knows about that background, he won’t be able to fully understand how you came to have your current difficulties and whether they represent a repetitive pattern in your life.
7. Among the topics you might be asked about are such things as a description of your parents and their approach to rearing you, relationships with siblings, the educational and social history of your school years, whether you changed residences with any frequency as a child, past and current health concerns for you and your family, the presence of any traumatic events in your life, your dating experience, the place of friends in your life, work background, alcohol or drug use, current medications, present family relationships (spouse/children), financial concerns, past or current depression or anxiety issues; any evidence of mood fluctuations, sleep, digestive problems, or headaches; caffeine use, suicidal or homicidal thoughts or actions, attentional problems, hyperactivity, hallucinations, delusions, hobbies, religion, how you feel about yourself, whether you are able to be assertive in your life (able to say "no” or ask for things), diet and eating/weight problems, obsessive thoughts, compulsive actions, and what you hope to get out of therapy. Of course, there may not be time to touch on all these areas in the first session.
8. You should not feel that you must talk about topics that are too uncomfortable for you. A sensitive therapist will give you permission to cover only the ground you wish to, and a sense of control over the progress of the session, so that you don’t become overwhelmed.
9. The therapist might well ask you what challenges you’ve had in life and how you have managed to overcome them. This kind of question helps the therapist and you to know what strengths you have and to help you remember that you have surmounted past difficulties and therefore can rely on those strengths to help you surmount the current problems.
10. By the end of the session, the therapist should provide you with some feedback about what you have said. In part, this is to help you and the therapist know if he has heard and understood what you have been saying, and whether his initial impression of you seems appropriate.
11. The counselor, to the extent that he offers interpretations of the material you have presented, ought to let you know that this is a first impression and therefore not necessarily perfectly accurate. Any good therapist needs to listen to your concerns about him personally, his ideas, the therapy approach he is recommending, and his effect on you. Such a person will not be offended by your concerns and actually wants to hear from you what feels right and what doesn’t feel right about the therapy process.
12. The counselor will normally allow a good deal of time to answer any questions that you have of him and his approach. It is not essential that you make another appointment at that time, although most people usually do. If you already believe that this therapist is not the right one for you, it is perfectly appropriate to say so and to ask him for a referral to another professional.
13. By the end of the session you ought to have a sense of direction and at least an initial treatment plan as articulated by the counselor. The therapist is likely to remind you of the importance of regular attendance and that your dedication to your own healing is essential to obtaining the results you want. Therapy, unlike medical intervention such as brain surgery, requires effort and activity on your part. It is also essential that you have the courage to look at yourself honestly, recognizing that in order for your life to be better you will have to be willing to change some things about yourself and your behavior.
14. At the end of the first session you might feel exhausted, in part because talking about big emotions is hard work! You are likely to be less anxious than you were when you came into the session. You may feel some amount of relief at having talked about things that you have rarely if ever discussed before. If the therapist has done his job, you should have a sense of hope.
15. In the days following the first psychotherapy encounter, you might well find yourself still processing the material you discussed. This can be unsettling, but it is quite normal. Additionally, a person new to therapy can feel that he has said too much and made himself too vulnerable to the therapist, especially if he (the patient) is a private person. Some people will therefore not return to therapy after the first session. If you have this hesitation, however, remember that it is in your interest to persist despite your discomfort if you sincerely wish to change your life. Good luck! About the Author...
Dr. Gerald Stein practices in Oak Brook and Skokie, Illinois. He received his Ph.D. in clinical psychology at Northwestern. After teaching at Rutgers and Princeton Universities, he served as Chief Psychologist at Forest Psychiatric Hospital. Dr. Stein has performed consultations for the Chicago White Sox, the Chicago Black Hawks, the Chicago Symphony, Right Management Consultants, and Rush North Shore Medical Center. He also served as an expert appointed by the U.S. District Court for the Northern District of Illinois in the case of K.L. vs. Edgar, which involved the evaluation of the Illinois Department of Mental Health. Last Update: 10/2/2009
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